OOC - Hopefully the last Stalker Update

[watchmakersylar]

"Stalking is a form of mental assault, in which the perpetrator repeatedly, unwantedly, and disruptively breaks into the life-world of the victim, with whom he has no relationship (or no longer has), with motives that are directly or indirectly traceable to the affective sphere. Moreover, the separated acts that make up the intrusion cannot by themselves cause the mental abuse, but do taken together (cumulative effect)." Technology ethics professor Lambèr Royakkers

shades_of_sylar deleted her Google Plus account or they did it for her. I'm not sure which, but that is one less place that I will ever have to deal with her obsessive need to be a part of my existence. I'm sure she'll make some other no name account to follow me, but whatever. I must admit that I lost my temper on Twitter Thursday night, and I had a little rant about the special snowflake nutcase there. I'm not proud of myself, but a person can only hold back for so long. I'm also Scot/Sicilian. I have a temper. I freely admit it, and she had it coming.

Her parting shot was to report my Google + profile where I was warned to change to a "common use" name. I've used the Watchmaker for 4 years, and one would think that's "common use" enough, but I gave in and changed my profile name. It's now Lee Gabriel, which is a pen name I'd picked out a few weeks ago. I like the name, and it's no big deal for me to have to use it there. It's still not my real name. They don't ask for "real name" just a "common use" name. So Lee Gabriel it is, and it's not for Sylar. It's for the angel Gabriel, who is the patron of writers and journalists.

For the stalker to have to give up her identity as Shades of Sylar somewhere is a great blow to her. That persona is all that she is. She has no world outside of her Twitter and Facebook, and although she has never managed to RP the character, she thinks she has. I was told that I should let this go, and that since she lives on the other side of the country she can't physically hurt me. Well mental anguish and stress count. I have high blood pressure. Was I supposed to let the stress cause a stroke? Would it have been a real threat then?

I'm counting her Google Plus removal as a victory, and I hope that she's finally going to leave me the fuck alone.

Speaking of Google Plus if you'd like to follow me I'm at gplus.to/thewatchmaker . If you need an invite, let me know in a comment.

Thanks for listening to me bitch, and thanks for you comments of support on this issue. I'm so glad that unlike some people, I have real friends.

Fron Wikipedia


False accusations: At one time, Mel was spamming Twitter with messages that I was a sociopath and that I thought I was Sylar. She still will attempt to make this accusations, but since most of her followers are bots, no one cares. But for quite a long period of time, people were afraid to approach me because they read what she was saying about me. By doing this she cut me off from meeting new people.

Attempts to gather information about the victim: This behavior was part of her need to start folowing/friending anyone I was friends with. She went to my RL LJ and started following everyone there at one point. This forced me to cut off communications with a lot of authors because I didn't want her spouting her false accusations about me to them. It would damage my reputation in the real world there. Each time I told her to go away I would get emails from my friends asking, "Why is your fucking stalker following all of my LJs..Twitter...?"

False victimization: Mel's really good at playing the too stupid to live card. She has people, who are otherwise quite intelligent, believing that she is an innocent victim. She just wants to be my friend. I'm sorry. If someone I wanted to be my friend, told me to fuck off as many times as I've told this woman, I would leave them alone. But she's not capable of that. Instead she plays the poor pitiful me game, and sadly people are naive and fall for it.

If you're on Twitter, Mel is there like the black plague. Her accounts make up 99% of the members of @roleplaygroup and @crossingfandoms.

Comments

[game-byrd.livejournal.com]

I wonder if somewhere out there is a study of stalkers - do they bounce from one target to another, always hounding someone like it's an obsession they can't do without, or a soap opera come to life for them? Or do they stalk one person and then get over it and move on to a more healthy sort of relationship? Not all rapists rape every person they ever have sex with.

I just wonder ... if this person stopped stalking you, would it mean that they were now stalking someone else? Or might it instead mean that they pulled their head out of their ass finally?

Regardless, I hope things get better for you.

[sylar.livejournal.com]

I'm sure she'll move onto a new target. Hell, I probably still am her target. I do feel that I've accomplished something though by getting her away from me on G+. She's banned everywhere here on LJ from all of her accounts.

For two years I bitched about my stalker, but I never said her name in a public post. So hopefully that really helps. Right now a lot of people know her name, and that'll will make it harder for her to play this game on anyone else.

I just wish I hadn't let myself be bullied into allowing her attention to keep her away from pestering my friends or ruining my reputation.

[paynesgrey.livejournal.com]

I'm hoping this is the time you can finally get rid of her. *hugs*

I added you on Google Plus. I'm Madd Heather over there, so just letting you know I'm not a stalker! :D

[sylar.livejournal.com]

Me too. =D

Cool I'll add you to my circles.

[nathanapetrelli.livejournal.com]

The thing is... I have been stalked IRL, and have had a non-molestation/ restraining order taken out on a bona-fide psychopath for my own safety. That order was handed out at a record time for that council, although unfortunately the bastard didn't do any time for what he put me through.

When he couldn't get to me personally, he tried to get to my friends. He harassed people at the consulate to get them to get me to talk to them, made threats against the then Consul General's family (you can guess how well SHE took it), made threats against the members of the police who had helped me get the hell away from him, etc etc etc. Remind you of anyone you know?

She has fucked with the WRONG person this time. I do NOT take kindly to this kind of fuckery - in fact, to me, it's a psychiatric trigger. And when I am triggered, I don't get sad - I get all "righteous fury" on people's asses. As she saw when she so much as started sniffing around me - she got "the rough side of my tongue and my malison beside", to quote the Bard (...I think.) Me telling her to beat feet the way I did was me being NICE. And that was only a small sample of what happens when I lose my shit.

So yeah, I think I am entitled to be just a LITTLE upset. And LOL at her thinking I was you - I am not NEARLY as patient as you are with this bullshit.

[sylar.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry that you had to go through that, my dear friend. You've been through more than enough, and I'm so sorry that fucking Mel decided to poke at you.

But Sweet Baby Zombie Jesus, thank you for kicking that piece of shit to the curb. I've had so many people tell me to ignore her, and she'd go away that when you said fuck that shit...I was thrilled to have you standing up to her besides me.

Shit, I'm crying just writing this. You helped me stand up to her. You helped me see that I was right to be pissed off. You made me realize that I hadn't done anything wrong, and that had every right to be angry.

I am so glad that you are my friend. <3

[nathanapetrelli.livejournal.com]

<3

Do not taunt Happy Fun Ball, etc etc. I'm like a cute little kitten - feed me cream and pet me and I will keep your feet warm at night, pull my tail or whiskers and I become a hellish ball of teeth and claws and fury and evil and teach you the new meaning of pain. She just HAD to go and find that out the hard way. XD

[onepowerpete.livejournal.com]

Good grief...With things like that going on I wonder why I came back at all. I'm sorry you have to go through that A LOT.

[sylar.livejournal.com]

It's been a horrific two years of Mel bullying and stalking me. I hope to hell that it's finally over. I'm tired of being afraid of every new person I encounter because of this experience. Every time a new RP character follows my Twitter now, I'm suspect, and I never follow back. Something I once enjoyed was pretty much ruined because of the fear that I'm carrying because of her behavior.

Hopefully someday she'll get some help with her obsessions.

[onepowerpete.livejournal.com]

I took it as flattery at first because you're so damn awesome,but for some time now I knew it had gone WAY over that into some morbid obsession to hurt you...I'm pretty sure I'd have been scared off. I'm really glad you've continued here though.

[sylar.livejournal.com]

Thanks for understanding. I know you're a friend of Mel's as is Raine, but I couldn't keep hiding who it was who was doing this shit to me anymore. It's like if you have a recurring nightmare and you tell someone about it, sometimes they go away.

Being nice to someone who I didn't like and never did, simply to placate their obsession is allowing yourself to be a victim. I was tired of being a victim, and I had to stand up for myself.

I will still RP a little on Twitter, mostly with my Peters, and from my @the_watchmaker account. But @thewatchmaker is pretty much done with it. I can't trust strangers on Twitter.

[onepowerpete.livejournal.com]

Only reason I'm still her friend is because I'm afraid of causing grief and more drama. I can't just ignore people, it's not my way.

I had a stalker on Twitter, and that was one of the many reasons I just disappeared.

[sylar.livejournal.com]

I've made some good friends on Twitter, but god I wish they gave a psych profile to people. There are some serious nutcases there. I'm sorry you were dealing with a stalker too.

[onepowerpete.livejournal.com]

Thankfully they got the hint and left me the hell alone. I was one of those people who thought you were unapproachable at first, and I'm really sorry about that, and I'm glad that I took a chance and approached you. You are definitely more mature than a lot of the others I met.

[sylar.livejournal.com]

*snerk* Well I'm older than a lot of them too. My AIM is iamthewatchmaker if you want to talk. I know we used to.

[onepowerpete.livejournal.com]

*snickers* Well there's that. Thanks!